Category Archives: Leadership

Daily Words off Affirmatio​n

Three things we must to say to ourselves everyday on the drive to the office:

 1) “I get to do this!”

Saying this will produce gratefulness.

2) “I want to do this!”

You have a choice in this life, but claiming this silences the enticing/mediocre dreams the world throws our way.

3) “I have to do this!”

You speak this in your gut…this is conversation with the soul. Imagining doing anything else feels like veering away from divinity.

Grab the steering wheel and say these affirmations with passion.

If you can’t say these words, then give your leader your two weeks notice – it’s not fair to you or them.

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Human > Digital

The digital ecosystem is here to stay. But we were human before we were digital – we had soul before we had batteries.

We text and say “we talked.” We email and say “we wrote them a note”. While these digital avenues can accomplish the same exchange of information, the weight of the exchange is much different between the two.

There is a ton of beauty in this new digital ecosystem, but it will never be able to overshadow the spoken word or the physical touch.

If you think there will come a time when you can ask your girlfriend to marry you via text message – think again. If you try, you won’t find a fiance – you’ll find the man in the mirror to be single again.

Rule of thumb: If you can be human in an exchange, be human.

A thank you note given in your handwritten ink will always be remembered more than a text alert in the recipient’s pocket.

We all want to be told we are loved, not tweeted we are loved.

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Thankfulness

We feel different today because thankfulness is overwhelmingly present. Today it owns our conversations, tweets, and status updates. Feels good doesn’t it? Feels right. Feels as it should be.

Thankfulness gets all the credit today, but it’s really about awareness – stopping, seeing, and dwelling on all the good that surrounds us. Awareness precedes thankfulness.

A simple thank you gives fuel to the servant to go and serve again…AND it deposits a dose of gratefulness into the heart of the one who was served. Thankfulness is not a oneway street, it’s a roundabout.

What if we repeated this day over the next 364 days?

Happy Awareness Day.

-Ashton

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Music to my ears.

“…._______ is music to my ears.”

The most important part in the previous sentence is the “blank“________. The goal of every leader, husband, and dad is to determine what that “blank” is and provide a means to fill it. Fill in the blank and music enters the recipient’s ears.

The first commandment is to “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.” God asks for the blank to be filled with us loving with heart, soul, mind, and strength – THAT is music to His ears.

This leads to an interesting take on the second commandment, The Golden Rule. When you love your neighbor as yourself, you leave your shoes, enter your neighbors shoes, and ask “would that, fill in the blank, be music these shoes would dance to?”

A husband that loves his wife like he loves himself, a dad that loves his daughter like he loves himself, and a leader that loves his customer like he loves himself composes music that his wife, daughter, and client have no choice but to moonwalk to.

The scriptures claim “There is no commandment greater than these.” Focus on these two commandments and the music will play.

He who fills in the blank is bestowed the title of maestro – and any business, parenting, and relationship plan that follows this blueprint wins.

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Do you want to color?

“Do you want to color?”

No other question stops a child in their tracks like this question. In fact, I saw it in person yesterday.

Scenario:

Mom is alone with three young girls and trying to maintain order.

The youngest of the girls is deep in play mode with a fresh new toy…she’s content.

The middle sister is crying because her older sister won’t share the mom’s iPhone…she’s jealous.

The oldest sister couldn’t care less about the middle sister crying, and a game of Angry Birds has her happy…oxymoronic, but par for the course – she’s the queen bee.

After the middle child cries uncontrollably for a while, the mom asks, “do you want to color?”

In a moment – time froze, the tears dried, and the middle child was enamored with colored pencils and drawing on a sheet of white paper. Jealous was given a creative outlet and found contentment.

Within sixty seconds the oldest sister drops the iPhone, grabs another sheet of paper, takes a colored pencil from pile, and begins to draw.

In another sixty seconds the youngest sister leaves the Happy Meal souvenir, takes her own sheet of paper, and joins the creative movement with her sisters.

The mom in this story was leading her children. What started as mass chaos, ended in orderly color creation.

This story casts a shadow that covers us all at some point. There is something hidden deep in our humanity that longs to draw, create, add color, and paint on the blank canvas. We all long to produce something out of the nothing.

As leaders we need to offer more boxes of Crayons and blank-white sheets of paper to those we are looking to lead. Sure, it’s OK to offer vision and direction – we have to – we are the leader. But first, we must offer an invitation to art class. Gifting our followers with trinkets (toys and iPhones) is not near as valuable as gifting our followers with freedom (paint and canvas).

We will begin to dent the world as leaders when our proverbial refrigerators are covered in the daily art of those we long to lead.

PS – Be sure to stockpile magnets to post their art on your refrigerator. Your followers love knowing you are proud of them and their work.