#41

I turned forty-one this week. To celebrate, we went to see U2 at The Sphere in Las Vegas. Phish and Dead and Co. are headed there soon. The game has changed with The Sphere. You just have to go and see for yourself.

In 1999, I had my second mystical moment (that I can recall). I was driving to high school and listening to #41 by Dave Matthews Band. Two things stand out from that moment. At first, I simultaneously saw and understood that everything was One. Secondly, that recognition of oneness put a smile/smirk on my face. Truly, it was the first time I remember being in on the Cosmic Joke.

So #41 holds profound meaning for me. The song serves as a lifelong reminder of what it feels and sounds like to be immersed in the Flow of the One Life that is constantly unfolding for, with, and around us.

As the clock struck 12:00 am CST on January 28th, I turned 41, and along with 20,000 friends, we sang One and I Still Haven’t Found What I’m looking For.

The significance of that moment with those lyrics wasn’t lost on me, and the smile from 1999 formed again.

Tasting and Seeing

In his six talks at Harvard entitled “The Unanswered Question,” Leonard Bernstein ended the final lecture (“The Poetry of the Earth”) by saying, “I’m no longer quite sure what the question is, but I do know that the answer is yes.”

On most days, our tendency is to scan our environment, react swiftly, and take immediate action based on our perceptions of what we believe we’ve witnessed and how we think we should manage it. These automatic responses often establish the repetitive patterns of our daily lives, resulting in a sense of restlessness, a craving for control, and a scarcity of peace and joy. We speed-read every moment, scanning for fouls, errors, differences of opinion, and anything that can help affirm our biases.

Individually and collectively, especially in our Western mindset, we believe our ‘no’ radar is flawless. Without practices that prompt us to step back and observe it objectively, this radar can take control of our minds and shape the narratives we tell ourselves.

What would it look like to cultivate a ‘yes’ radar? A radar that is catholic (universal) in its understanding that our neighbor is important, our Earth is important, and how we navigate and transform these connections is of utmost importance. What if we could learn to tap into the radar that always reports back with the memo: “Everything is happening for good”? How much beauty could blossom if our radars focused on the positive flow within and around our lives, rather than fixating on resistance that breeds unhelpful narratives?

When we allocate minimal or no time for genuine observation, moments of pause, and thoughtful reflection, we are signing up to eventually become a victim of our circumstances. Yet, we have a choice. When we choose to allow ourselves to fully taste the inexplicable nuances of the universe and explore the intricate spaces uniquely curated for us and our individual stories, we enhance our ability to discover the subtle clues guiding our divine and profound journeys.

Indeed, ‘yes’ becomes our reflex to all of the unanswered questions along our paths when we make the habits of tasting and seeing a part of our daily lives.

Yes, Everything Is Waiting For You.

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Lowering Our Expectations

“Happiness at any given moment equals reality minus expectations.” Brad Stulberg

“The first rule of a happy life is low expectations. That’s one you can easily arrange. And if you have unrealistic expectations, you’re going to be miserable all your life.” Charlie Munger

“People often think that something “far off” will make them happy. That moving to a new place or getting a different job or meeting someone new will change how they feel. But happiness will always be withheld if you believe it is somewhere else. The secret is to find happiness in the people and places that are close to you. See the beauty in the things that are nearby.” James Clear

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Finding Your Flow

No one has ever planted a seed and held on.

You have to let it go.

Plant.

Let go.

Plant.

Let go.

This is the pattern that accelerates the serendipity of our lives.

As this serendipity accelerates, you then begin to swap your close-fisted expectations for open-handed anticipation of what just may start to flow your way.

#TonyHsieh

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